The Road To Success – Begins in the Mirror?


Part of my coaching is dedicated to clean healthy living – creating a healthier version of you.  From time to time I will write and offer tips to achieve this goal.

No matter what anyone says, until you are happy with yourself, there can be no success in your future.  We have often wondered about it.  Why some people are successful, and others are not.  If we look closely for many, it begins in the mirror.  Whether it is acne prone skin, large pores, dark spots, being overweight.  The things that make us self-conscious also impede our success.  Every year, millions of people across the world want to make their skin lighter, by undergoing often dangerous treatments.

According to a report released in June 2017 by the research firm Global Industry Analysts, global spending on skin lightening products alone is projected to triple to $31.2 billion by 2024.

The driving force, the still rampant darker skin stigma and the rigid cultural perception that correlates lighter skin tone with beauty and personal success.

Add to that every year all around the world men and women go near bankrupt in pursuit of beauty.

I developed hormonal acne at the age of 47.  It changed my whole persona.  Even as a former cosmetologist I  purchased every makeup known to mankind to cover up my perceived hideousness, I found none.  Then I thought instead of trying to cover up the flaws, why not get rid of them.  That started my journey down the all-natural skincare path.  For nearly two years I have been testing and testing and testing.

I know realize the road to success does, in fact, begin in the mirror.   Society has given us a set of prejudices that deep down we all possess.   Let’s first discuss our two selves then will go over some basic skincare.  A healthy you equates to a confident you.  A confident you mean a successful you.

What Does It Mean To Self Improve

Self-improvement has become mainstream. In the last few years, since I write articles and submit them to article pages, I have noticed that the category “Self Improvement” has been appearing lately, when it was never there. That is very good news for me.

However, what does it mean to improve yourself? What do we improve if we improve ourselves? Moreover, what kind of “self” do we improve?

We all have two “selves” – our injured Self and our core self. Our ‘true’ self is our natural soul self – our essence. It is our passion, our gifts and talents, our joy, our creativity and our ability to love.  We are born as our core self, that self is loved and appreciated by our parents, we naturally grow our God-given gifts and talents and manifest the fullness of our beings. This self-wants to improve by learning the skills necessary to express yourself completely.

However, if this self is not seen and appreciated as we need it, we create an alternative self, a self that we hope will control the love we need and the pain we do not deal with the can, has. This is our false self, our injured self, our ego-self. This self is filled with the confidence-killing beliefs that society has placed on us as we grew up – beliefs that ultimately limit our true core self. This self-do does not have to be improved – it needs healing.

The term “self-improvement” can sometimes be a little misleading because we do not want to improve our wounded self. We do not want to improve the way we lie, manipulate and avoid our attempts to be in control, to get love and to avoid pain. We do not want to improve our many substance and process dependencies. We do not want to improve our anger, our resistance, our compliance, or our retreat.

Instead, we attempt to ‘heal’ it.

Healing and improvement are not the same.

We can certainly improve when it comes to skills. We can improve ourselves in sports, art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and well-being by improving our diet and exercise program. We can improve the knowledge we need to be more successful regarding work and money. We could improve our relationships by learning new communication skills. However, what if new skills and abilities are acquired that do not improve our health or our ability to earn money or relationships? What if learning new skills does not bring us more joy and inner peace? It may mean we have to heal the underlying fears and false beliefs that make us anxious, depressed, stressed, guilty, ashamed, withdrawn, angry, shameful, or sad.

Sometimes, self-improvement means practicing a skill, and sometimes it means we have to participate in a deep healing process. This article, for example, will aid in improving your health and self-confidence through proper skin care. However, when results are not as swift as the unhealed pain, you may not be able to change your routine too easily. You may need to open up to a healing process to eventually improve.

If you are trying to improve yourself, but are stuck and incapable of making progress, or that you are not experiencing happiness or peace, you may want to open up the possibility that unhealed pain and faith will block your progress and cause your pain. It is easy to improve if nothing blocks the way. However, if you have old misconceptions about your appropriateness and worth, these beliefs can block your ability to take loving action on your behalf. All your efforts to improve yourself will not bring you the satisfaction you seek if you have beliefs that keep you from fully expressing your true core self. If you are stuck, then you have to go to a healing process, such as the inner bonding process we teach, which will lead you out of the fears and beliefs that limit you. If you heal these fears and limit your faith, the door will open to improve your life in every way!

Better Skin Begins With Your Next Meal

As consumers, we are being bombarded with a variety of body and facial anti-aging products, be they simple cosmetics or surgical procedures. However, the fountain of youth comes from better nutrition, as many health experts already agree. A survey by the American Academy of Dermatology found that 94 percent of women are confused by all the available anti-aging treatments (over-the-counter and prescription) as well as the procedures available in a doctor’s office. According to some, you can look and feel younger with better skin, starting with your next meal.     Here, is a quick look into a four-step approach to getting clearer, skin by implementing a diet that is rich in vegetable juices, whole grains, raw foods, and lean protein which protect it from the causes of both inward and outward symptoms protect it from the causes of both inward and outward symptoms and cleanse the body of toxins.  For example include carrots, which add luster to the hair; artichokes for better energy; and almonds, a good source of vitamin B. Several factors affect how our skin performs and looks, including environmental toxins, sun exposure, free radical attacks on the cells, inflammation and a weakened immune system. The approach to creating a better diet that focuses on clearer skin has four components: * Step 1: fast cleansing either with a full-time vegetable juice fast or a two-day raw food program designed to repair damaged cells. * Step 2: low carbohydrate diet for 14 days, which includes plenty of vegetables, sprouts, vegetable juices, low-sugar fruits, whole grains and lean proteins. An important aspect of this phase is the reduction of total caloric intake. * Step 3: cleansing programs for your intestinal tract, liver, gallbladder, kidneys, and blood. Detoxification, according to many skincare experts, is the key to fighting skin conditions. * Step 4:  vitamins and minerals such as Vitamin A and  Zinc are needed to combat the symptoms of aging and clear skin and should be integrated into your diet routine.

Detoxify Your Way To Health And Beauty

How many times has your brain felt so sluggish that you can not even think clearly? How often do you feel so tired that even climbing stairs cost a lot? Alternatively, how about the times when you felt so uncomfortable that even your best outfit cannot lift your mood? They have tried every trick known to stay fit and scour every shelf in the health and beauty sector for this miracle product that could invigorate you, but still without success. Why not try to look home and the grocery section of your grocery store? What am I talking about? I am talking about detoxification. Detoxification is not just sweating buckets in the gym or starving yourself with a water diet. It is a holistic approach to health and beauty. It covers everything from diet, fitness, and wellbeing. Try it for a day, then a weekend and start the new week with a renewed and revived you. Detoxifying your path to health and beauty is possible with a few things that you can comfortably find in your home. With a few key ingredients like a loofah or brush, aromatic oils, herbal tea and a free, me-time weekend you are ready to rejuvenate and renew. Start on a Friday with light (think of salads and fruits) and drink plenty of water throughout the day. At night, slowly massage yourself with a loofah or brush with slow and long strokes. Move in one direction: up and toward your groin. Refresh yourself with tea or water and enjoy a bath of warm water and drops of aromatic bath oil. Light a few scented candles as you gradually add cold water within half an hour until your bath gets a little cold. This is done for the stimulation of the blood vessels. The next day is started with hot lemon water. Go for a walk and take a deep breath. Treat yourself to a steam bath or go for a swim. You can then get a massage. Finish your health and beauty detox with a dry massage brush and bath. Remember, however, that you may have excessive sweating, mild headaches, and rashes. These are signs that your body releases toxins and that they are transient. Detoxification is effective, safe and inexpensive enough to be part of your weekly health and beauty routine. Remember to avoid this during your period, pregnancy and illness. Talk to your doctor if you have problems during detoxification.

Make Your Skin Glow

  • Ever increasing value for beauty supplied in its season;
  • Ever decreasing value for beauty denied for any reason
The Skin is our main vanity.  When skin conditions arise our confidence dives.  A good skin care regimen is what we should all practice. There are different kinds of facial solutions.  The top few are: CLEANSING FACIAL SOLUTIONS – These products cleanse, tighten and moisturize the skin. This is best done after a hard day’s work. EXFOLIATING FACIAL SOLUTION – This is used for deep cleansing facials and is an aid to help improve tired, congested skin. With the use of AHA technology, the skin’s natural self-cleansing ability is restored. An hour of this facial treatment improves the skin’s appearance, lessens the blackheads and whiteheads, and reduces excess oil production. PARAFFIN TREATMENT FACIAL – This special facial treatment is meant for dry skin. Before applying the paraffin, the cleansing cream should be the first one to be applied. Afterward, essential oils are gently massaged onto the skin. The deep heat from by the paraffin will give the skin a soft and supple feeling. ACTIVE SKIN FACIAL TREATMENT – This type of facial address more of the skin problems like oils and clogged pores, acne, and bacteria. ESSENTIAL OIL MASSAGE FACIAL – A deep penetrating massage helps penetrate the skin pores, while vitamins, minerals, and essential oils restore the vitality of the skin. Taking care of our skin, the accessory we wear every day and our largest organ are as important daily as healthy food. Remember, skin care treatments do not have to be expensive. There are easy ways to take care of our skin, which would not burden the budget. Skip going to a high-end salon to get treatments; you can shop for less expensive botanical skin products that can be used at home. The herbal products are usually just as effective as the chemical treatments in beauty salons. Taking vitamin A, C and E supplements is a relatively inexpensive way to increase antioxidants in the body. These antioxidants promote cell attachment and regeneration. Zinc is also a powerful player. To sum it up, there are ten steps to a better relationship between you and your mirror.

10 Steps To Cleaner And Healthier Skin

1) Lower your stress level through prayer and meditation. Stress creates hormones that age us as they destroy cells and create toxic byproducts and free radicals.   Although I personally didn’t need a study to tell me, studies have shown that prayer and meditation can reduce our stress levels significantly. Prayer and meditation even proved to relieve some of the symptoms of cancer and other life-threatening illnesses. 2) Drink exaggerated amounts of water. 90% of us do not drink enough water; it is a proven fact. For your skin cells to function properly and to properly heal cuts, etc., we need to drink 8-12 glasses of water daily. Our skin, our most important suit, is also one of our most important organs, because it protects us from diseases, dampens our falls, etc. It needs much water. 3) Get proper sleep. Not the right 8-10 hours of sleep per day will show up on the skin first. Broken capillaries, swelling, dark circles under the eyes. 4) Eat well. Get proper nutrition. Too many junk foods can cause or worsen skin problems such as pimples and acne. It has been shown that a balanced meal three times a day helps to reduce rashes and relieve the appearance of acne. 5) Take vitamins to supplement your skin and body. We can not always make sure that we get 100% of every vitamin and mineral in the food we eat, but we can take a multivitamin once a day. They are conveniently located in Walmart, and there is no excuse. People who take multivitamins once a day live longer. It is a proven fact, just like people who smoke take many years of their lives. 6) Clean your skin properly. Hard soaps can dry out your skin and even stimulate sebum production, which can aggravate acne. Using a mild cleanser with 2% salicylic acid is more effective. This has proven to be very effective at removing excess oil while maintaining proper hydration and pH. The light acid keeps bacteria at bay. 7) Do not smoke. Smoking can add ten years to the aged look of your skin. If you need nicotine then you will get nicotine gum or the patch – they will cure your craving. 8) Wear sunscreen. The skin does have keratin to protect against the suns rays, but it is no match for UV rays, etc… that we expose ourselves to. Melanoma has several forms, and all are deadly. If you do not think you will get skin cancer or think you are invulnerable, just go to your local dermatologist and ask to see pictures of clients with skin cancer, better yet go to the oncology center at your local hospital. You will not think that way ever again. Wear sunscreen and ladies, use SPF enhanced makeup. 9) Treat yourself to a spa treatment at least once a year even if at home. Treatments such as Skin peels and deep tissue massage should be done by a professional.  Complete relaxation, aromatherapy, etc… will all energize and heal your skin. TCA peels will improve your skins ability to regenerate itself and improve collagen levels. 10) Invest in a good pair of sunglasses.  Not only will they look good and make you feel good about yourself, but they will also protect your eyesight. Sunglasses are a great fashion accessory, but again their main job is to protect your eyes from the harmful ultraviolet rays of the sun. Some of the effects of the sun on the eyes are:
  1. Cataract is a clouding of the eye lens that can blur the vision. 20% of cases are estimated to be caused by prolonged UV exposure.
  2. Macular degeneration is destroyed central vision which is a result of damage to the retina. This is the leading cause of blindness in the United States.
  3. Pterygium, a tissue growth over the white part of the eye surface that can alter the curvature of the eyeball and cause astigmatism.
Give me 30 days, and you will create for yourself a healthy environment for high self-esteem which leads to that long, wonderfully eventful road to success.